Postscript on the Women's Month 2009

Dear Tristan, it was your baptism yesterday (we celebrated it AND Ate Sage's Birthday) welcome to the Christian World. I really hope you do grow up to be a real gentleman like what your Ninang Dhes mentioned in her blog. Gentleman na medyo bastos.

I really don't know how to make you one but I can help you learn how to treat women properly so that you won't be a sexually inept/insecure individual like CONVICTED RAPIST DAN SMITH who found it necessary to prove his sexual orientation to his army buddies by raping a woman inside their van (maybe his army buddies had adequate reason to suspect that CONVICTED RAPIST DAN SMITH was a beneficiary of the army's "DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL POLICY". He's so good looking like George Michael and Rustom Padilla in their prime.)

I found this online. Pls. take time to read it:


A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bullshit, how about:

If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5AM, don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don't rape her.

If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and report him as a rapist.

Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, and sons of friends that it's not okay to rape someone.

Don't just tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x, y, or z.
Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl. Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions.

You can too help yourself.

Rape is not about sex, it's about control and power, and what kind of power comes from taking advantage of others?

The kind of god-like power Ted Bundy had over the women he raped and murdered;

The kind of absolute Power Fritzl, that incestuous product of Hitler's Master Race, had over his daughter when he raped her for 30 years. Starting when she was an 11 year old child;

The kind of impotent power CONVICTED RAPIST DAN SMITH had over his victim as he struggled to rape her in the backseat of the van, aided and abetted by his Marine Comrades who have been trained in the art of mortal combat- but have absolutely no idea how to pleasure a woman.

If you agree, repost it. It's important.





I was moved to repost this after reading Pat Evangelista's INQUIRER column this morning.

By Patricia Evangelista
Philippine Daily Inquirer
First Posted 04:22:00 03/29/2009

You know the story, about the girl who goes for a night out, who is carried off, drunk and helpless, to be raped in a waiting van. You know what happens after, and where she is found: along a pier, disoriented, her pants down around her feet. You know where the story takes a different turn, because the girl, unlike the woman who is raped every hour in this country, goes to court and testifies that she was raped on the night of Nov. 1, 2005. This is what she said in a July 2006 hearing: “They took away my dignity … Smith raped me and his companions even encouraged him. They were enjoying it as if they were watching a private show. Then they just unloaded me [from the van] like a pig.” ... to read the rest of her article, click here