Saturday, May 27, 2006

INDEPENDENCE


I've said time and again that I'm raising my daughters to be kind-hearted, Kick-Ass, socially responsible, independent young women. But what does it really mean to be free (from a domestic point of view)? When the time comes will I be willing to give it to you, anakis? After you've earned your college degrees? When I think of all the possible consequences of what "Independence" can do-not just to a young lady but to everyone else- I feel FEAR.

When I myself was a kid I kept on repeating to myself that

"the price of FREEDOM is LIFE. BUT to live is to be FREE"

it's a paradox that I have faced. It's something that we ALL must face.


This is one blog entry I'm making for myself.

8 comments:

bing said...

i think it is a normal feeling to be afraid of our children's freedom. freedom can bring them to many heights and depths. if we go back to our time when we are just beginning to have a taste of it, we really do not feel fear at all. and i guess it would be the same for them. i hope we can all, as parents, be there when they soar to independence and be smart enough to show them the right way.

BW said...

I've posted this before in another blog but I feel it's worth posting again. They say our kids are like kites. We make them soar as high as they can go. The difference is at some point, we need to let the string go so they can soar by themselves.

categorically imperative said...

Daughters, huh? I'm having LP read Virginia Woolf when she reaches high school. Don't want her taking sh** from any man, even from her own father. I think that's very important. I can't wait to see her smart, intelligent, and accomplished at 18. Hehe. Overbearing mother here!!!

snglguy said...

Geez, it looks like I'm the only one commenting here who isn't actually a parent. But yeah, I can relate with that fear...

CL said...

I find that if parents are confident about their child’s ability and capacity to be resourceful, smart, and witty, then I see no need to be fearful. I don’t understand why some people trouble their life with the things that never happen. Again, it’s all in the head. Many parents expect so much from their child, yet failed to ask their child what they expect of this life. It would have been more beneficial if they continue to encourage and support their child’s interest, allow them to grow and let them enjoy their childhood experiences.

tin-tin said...

i really can't relate with it since i still don't have any children, but i guess that's what every parent feels :)

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Anonymous said...

I like it! Good job. Go on.
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